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Learning patience can lighten our load

April 24, 2017

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Linda McNamarLinda McNamar

Waiting for the bus, waiting for the repair person, waiting for the doctor; so much of our lives seem to be spent in waiting.  Some people get impatient, some are bored and often people get so edgy that anger spills out on the next person who arrives at their side.  Yet, there are people who seem to wait easily and patiently. They are a light to the people around them.  Author Mandy Hale said, “What we are waiting for is not as important as what happens to us while we are waiting. Trust the process.”

Photographers often wait for the right light in order to get the best photo. A skilled photographer wants to be present, with camera ready, when the light is right. There is something that photographers call the “golden hour,” the hour before sunset or the hour after sunrise. The sunlight is soft and diffused and everything looks golden.  I call it the in-between time; the waiting time. Part of waiting is knowing when to be patient and when to take action. Waiting is often difficult because we live in such a get-it-done culture. Yet we can, by paying attention, allow our waiting to be soft and diffused, becoming lighter ourselves.

Light is not only from the sun. It comes from many sources: candles, chandeliers, campfires, and especially the human heart.  Heart-light is not visible but it can be felt.  In hospital waiting rooms, in grocery store lines, at a bus stop, we can give ourselves over to our heart-light and trust the process. Trusting the process transforms our awareness of our own and others’ pain, fear or anger. Say yes to your heart-light.  Don’t bury it under negative thinking.  Finding the alternative creates tremendous clarity of our own feelings and the feelings of others. It creates freedom and safety. We can use this time to think of as many positive things as we can that are in our lives now.  We can choose them as positive affirmations to light our way.  Even when we are having a bad day we can bask in the light of others until we begin to glow again.

The Rev. Linda McNamar is a Village resident.

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